Low self-confidence can have a huge impact on a person. It can stop you from believing in yourself and so prevent you from attempting certain new things that you might potentially be good at and even enjoy. This alone can change the course of your life. But low self-confidence will also impact on the quality of your relationships and, in a very real way, on your quality of living and your enjoyment of things.
Although, in many respects, the concept of self-esteem is similar to the concept of self-confidence, there is something of a difference. While self-confidence places an emphasis on the way you feel about your ability to do certain things, self-esteem focuses instead more on the opinion you have of yourself.
It has been suggested that you will allow yourself to experience only as much happiness as you believe you are worthy of receiving. Certainly, it is true that your levels of self-esteem and self-acceptance go hand in hand with your level of happiness.
When making sense of certain events, or when making sense of the world more generally, some people tend to give more weight to their own perceptions of the way things are, while other people are more concerned about how others may see things to be. It is as if each of us falls somewhere on a continuum between these two poles.
This distinction has been described in terms of it being one of a number of largely unconscious meta-programmes that serve to influence the way each of us reacts to the world. It should be noted that there is no real right or wrong way to be in this respect, although there are both some advantages and disadvantages of finding yourself on either side of the spectrum.
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