erection issues
Has it ever happened to you? Erectile dysfunction, as they sometimes call it, will affect most men at one time or another. Tragically, few events have the ability to, as quickly, shatter our sense of self esteem and leave us feeling like something the cat brought in. So what usually causes this often very embarrassing phenomenon and what can we do if it should ever come to plague us?
What are its Causes?
An erection happens when blood is pumped into a penis - and stays there - making it stiff and hard. Factors such as diabetes mellitus, kidney disease, alcoholism, atherosclerosis, drugs (prescription or otherwise) and even some surgery can impact on this complex process so, as a first step, it is most important that you visit your doctor to rule out any such cause. It might, then, come as a relief to know that the condition is not usually the result of physical factors. If, for example, you still sometimes find yourself awaking during the night, or in the morning, with a reasonable erection, the chances are that any difficulty you may be experiencing at other times is mostly just in your mind.
Stress, tiredness, depression and bereavement can all exacerbate things, as can problems in relationships or sexual hang-ups of one sort or another. Performance anxiety (the fear that it will happen again) is, however, probably the single greatest culprit.
It’s all in the Mind
Our unconscious minds tend to control our automatic physical functions. These include our breathing, digestion, heart beat and, of course, states of arousal. We only become truly turned on when we engage our senses in an erotic thought or activity. Invariably, doing so will then automatically trigger in us the desired physical response. Merely thinking about getting hard doesn’t usually do the trick, however, as we tend not to get an erection by trying to achieve one. Like falling asleep, it needs to happen by itself.
Performance anxiety can affect us in a number of ways:
- It can cause us a great deal of stress, which is of course counter productive.
- It can cause us to mentally rehearse things going wrong, which in turn sets us up for failure.
- Instead of allowing all our senses to get caught up in the erotic moment at hand and trusting our unconscious mind to then trigger the right response in us, performance anxiety increasingly places our focus on actually getting an erection - a strategy that seldom works very well.
Common Remedies
Viagra is one of a number of products which have recently come to the rescue. Although, of course, not a permanent solution (nor one very conducive to spontaneity) it has already helped millions of people. Lifestyle improvements, in terms of exercise and diet can also be quite helpful, as can certain more natural remedies like ginseng. Still there is no direct herbal alternative to Viagra. And Viagra is no real substitute for tackling those fundamental emotional or psychological issues that, in most cases, lie at the root of this condition. (Too much Viagra can, of course, also make us run the risk of becoming reliant on the product.)
Hypnosis and NLP
Techniques involving Hypnosis and NLP can impact on the all-important mental and emotional component of our sexual function and hand back control to where it should be – i.e. with our own unconscious mind.
Such techniques can:
- lower our anxiety around getting and maintaining a satisfactory erection
- remind us of a time before we had any issues in this area.
- break the mental and emotional patterns that now prevent our performance
- kill our unhelpful self-talk
- allow us to focus on the one thing that will sexually turn us on when we really need to be turned on
Help
I now offer a four-session, one-on-one treatment plan, during which we'll together explore what actually happens to you when things don't quite work. Then, using a powerful combination of appropriate techniques, we will correct the situation without the use of harmful drugs or other physical aids.
I do of course understand the delicacy that so often surrounds such an issue. It's therefore important that you're made to feel comfortable enough to open up about it. I will not ask you to commit to the course of treatment until the end of our first session together. By then, you'll hopefully feel quite happy to do so. The course includes the individual sessions, and a specially made CD for you to listen to at home. View Fees Page, make an appointment now or, if you have questions, please send me an email or even give me a call on 020 7734 4000.
There is no need to continue to let yourself down sexually.
